You tied the knot and have been married for some time - it may be months or it may be years... however your wife could be cheating right under your nose without you even knowing for sure. Even if you don't have any idea that she's cheating, here's some typical signs that she is up to no good:
- A sudden need for privacy. If your wife suddenly starts hiding cell phone bills, credit card statements and even password protecting the computer, you should start to think about investigating further since they will likely be trying to hide something, which could be another relationship.
- Regular work habits change. If your wife suddenly changes her daily work habits (E.G. starts leaving earlier and returning later), then she might well be cheating. A good way to see if she is cheating here is to ask her why she has changed her habits. If she can't, then she's hiding something.
- Secretive phone calls or more time spent on the phone. Naturally your wife would want to talk to her new lover and what better way than on the phone. If she locks herself away and is making a lot more phone calls than usual, she is probably hiding something.
- "Odd" behavior. Not being able to explain where they were, not being able to account for some money, receipts for things you don't have and missing clothes are all signs that your wife might be cheating on you.
- Your own fears & suspicions. More often than not, your own intuition is the best warning sign that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.
If you suspect your wife might be cheating on you, then the only way to resolve the matter is to investigate what she's up to. The best place to start is with her cell phone, which is what she will likely use to contact her lover.
One night, when she's asleep, take her phone and look through all the numbers she contacted frequently. Write all those numbers down and then use a reverse cell phone lookup service to find who owns each number. If you find any real "gems", then confront your wife about what you've found. Often talking about the problem will resolve it one way or another. |
